Transition: Arrived!

This is Part 3 of the series on transition.

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It’s been awhile since I have written because I have been happily nesting in our new home. And, yes, there is a crazy story about finally getting here because we are NOT in the sadly neglected house mentioned in the previous article about transition. So many lessons learned during this amazing (and amazingly stressful) transition that I can’t think of a single title that begins to cover them all.

It has been a year since my mother passed away and my transition into a life without a living parent began. During this year, I managed to survive settling her estate and moving into a much larger house to accommodate my adult son. Jay is intellectually challenged and really needs a space to call his own. Sam and I thought we had found a house that would suit all of us. It was a gorgeous old girl, but it needed lots and lots of expensive work.

Finding a house that would work for us all, that we could afford, wasn’t easy. So we felt really blessed when our bid was accepted. But then things started going crazy. The closing date kept being moved forward because, unbeknownst to us, the sellers were in bankruptcy. I grew more and more anxious as time rolled on until finally, after another night of tossing and turning, I completely disrupted our plans by calling our agent and asking if we could look at some other houses. It was the call she had been waiting for apparently, because she immediately canceled our pending contract (we got our earnest money back) and set up appointments to view other properties.

This all happened without Sam’s knowledge. He had gone birding (shorthand for bird watching) with some of his buddies, leaving me alone long enough to hear from God without interruption. (I live in a busy, noisy house. Even my two cats are noisy … and opinionated). As soon as I made the call to our agent, the peace of God came crashing back and resumed its rightful place. I had missed that peace.

So what was Sam’s reaction to my high-handedness, you ask? He was profoundly relieved one of us had made the call. Because, you see, he thought I had my heart set on that house AND I thought he had his heart set on that house. We wanted to please each other so much that we ignored our anxieties, forgetting that we are supposed to seek the peace of God … not satisfy the whims of our spouse.

Lesson Learned! Seek the peace of God, stupid! I mean really! How could we have forgotten that? It is so very basic. And if you are tempted to correct my confession, please don’t. Just don’t. Nothing is more stupid that a human doing their own thing. Let’s be honest about it. That is why we need the mind of Christ (1 Corinthians 2:16).

Lesson Learned! God will yank you back from the ledge if you will show just a little bit of gumption. The day before I cancelled our contract on the grand old lady, I was overcome with the oddest sensation. I felt like a bride conflicted about her upcoming wedding. I really didn’t want to marry my fiancé, but didn’t feel like I could back out because of all the time and money invested in the ceremony. Plus, I couldn’t disappoint everyone or bear the embarrassment! I felt trapped!

God had nailed how I felt about marrying that old house. But I still had to make the call. I had to risk missing out on a wonderful house. I had to risk disappointing and upsetting Sam, Jay, the sellers and our real estate agent. I had to risk following God.

Lesson Learned! Following God is worth the risk. Two days later we found our house! It’s not perfect, because nothing is this side of heaven, but it is near perfect for our needs. The moment we walked through the door, all three of us felt the presence of God and his assurance that this was it! We moved in about three months ago and I have been busily nesting ever since. So fun!

But what if I hadn’t followed God? We would be spending our little bit of money putting on a roof instead of buying an awesome sofa. We would be having a HVAC unit installed instead of kitchen counters. God would be patiently walking us through the challenges of fixing up a sadly neglected house on a budget. In other words, we would be learning our lessons the hard way. And one day, down the road, we would face another risky decision that required us to choose between following God or following what had been set in motion.

Let me pray for you (then I’m going to paint my new – found it on the roadside – coffee table).

I pray that God will give you the gumption to follow Him, no matter the risk. And I pray that He will give you ears to hear clearly when He calls you to those kinds of decisions. In Jesus name, I pray. Amen.

And remember! Seek his peace!

Hugs and blessings to you all,
Susan

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And the peace of God, which surpasses all comprehension, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7

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Transition: Are We There Yet?

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I will cause showers to come down in their season; they will be showers of blessing. Exekiel 34:26

The wife of one of my long-ago pastors told a story about her rude and cranky neighbor. After a run-in with this neighbor, she reported being shocked at what had poured out of her mouth, finishing up her story with these wise words: You don’t know what is in your bucket until someone kicks it over.

Transition is good at bucket kicking. That in-between stage of “one foot in what will be and the other stuck in what was” is a stressful place. Uncertainty, impatience and anxiety spills out of our inside bucket, sometimes in a flood; sometimes in a trickle, but out it comes during times of big change.

My mother passed away in September 2017. Being without a parent has been a difficult emotional transition for me. There is no way to describe it except to say it is a very odd and disconnected feeling.

Settling my mother’s estate has been a long and challenging process, requiring me to meet and interact with relatives, lawyers, stockbrokers, real estate agents, estate sales managers, auction house movers and so on. Then, when her house sold, the closing date kept shifting around. I felt like I was chasing a broken egg across the kitchen floor. All my prayer appointments became maybes. (Thank you to all those I pray with for their patient understanding). My settled, predictable life became very unsettled.

When my mother’s house finally closed, I grieved it, unexpectedly. I had no idea what that house meant to me until I walked through it one last time. This was the house where I had visited my mother for 30 years. The house she loved. The house she died in.

So what did Sam and I do in the midst of this life transition? We bought a house! A big beautiful, sadly neglected house that we could in no way afford unless it had been sadly neglected. And guess what? That closing date is shifting around! AND the sellers are in bankruptcy, which was NOT disclosed at the time we made our offer. So, we don’t know for sure when we will be moving or even if we will be moving. And there is an enormous amount of expensive work to do on our new house. What were we thinking?!?

So here I am suspended in transition, painting the windows of our current house, getting it ready to go on market. And like a tired cranky child riding in the backseat on a too-long road trip, I’m asking the Lord: Are we there yet?

Here is how I’m handling TOO MUCH transition. Heads up: it’s not pretty.

  1. Panda Fun got my take-out order wrong. I cried.
  2. Sam stepped in front of me to use the sink while I was cooking, I bit his head off. (Not as tasty as Panda Fun).
  3. I’m spending too much time on Facebook.
  4. I’m restless, unfocused and sleeping poorly.
  5. I’m worrying about the new house. Did we follow the Lord? Have we made a mistake? What were we thinking?!?
  6. I even caught myself watching a mental movie of the previous day’s social interactions while the devil provided a nasty commentary. I haven’t succumbed to that kind of self-hating nonsense in years.

What’s going on besides transition?

  1. The Devil. The enemy requires negative emotional energy (the dark stuff) in order to have any kind of power. He sees transition as an opportunity to amplify any fear of the new and unknown. Fear is negative emotional energy.
  2. Unresolved Historical Pain. Past issues stored in your bucket (the heart) surface during times of anxiety. That unresolved emotional pain mixes with, flavors and amplifies any present-day uncertainty.
  3. The Fall. We live in a fallen world. This means that we are surrounded by fallen people acting in fallen ways. They are afraid and uncertain, too. We feel their distress and add it to ours. Ugh.

Help! Is there help with transition?

  1. In the midst of my distress, the Lord posed a question. He said: “If you were in heaven and I gave you a challenge, like the one you are facing with your new sadly neglected house, would you be afraid?” I answered, “No. I would not be afraid because I would have all the resources of heaven to call upon to help me.” The Lord responded: “You have all the resources of heaven now. It just doesn’t feel like it because you are in the Fall.” I remind myself of this when I’m scared.
  2. It has helped to read the books of Proverbs and Psalms.
  3. Worship is helpful.
  4. If you have unresolved historical pain, work on it. If not, but the enemy is trying to take you back to resolved pain (what was happening to me), recognize what is going on and tell him to get lost.
  5. Sending my angels to bring in the help I need to accomplish the task at hand.
  6. Reciting the Lord’s attributes in my mind (so that I don’t give in to worry). He is kind; He is willing to help me; He is eager to guide and advise me; He wants to share His wisdom with me and so on.
  7. Remembering to be kind to myself, being my own best friend, the friend I always wished for has been helpful.

Let us pray together as we grow together, that our buckets will contain less and less of the nasty stuff and more and more of the good stuff. Because, while we are in this fallen world, our buckets will get kicked.

This time of big transition has been emotionally upsetting AND beautifully humbling. Any notion that I was a spiritual big shot full of faith and confidence is long gone. I still need a savior. And I have learned that when the challenge is big enough, what is in my bucket is going to spill out.

I bless your journey wherever you may be.

Hugs,
Susan
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Spiritual Challenge in the USA

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Do not let the world pull you into fear. Stay in joy!

Written 2/15/2018

I wish I had shared this with you before the recent shooting in Florida. Here it is now. Please pray as the Lord leads you.

The Lord has been talking with me about three high-level evil spirits that have recently been super empowered to do great harm here in America.

Here they are:
1. The spirit of unexpected, sudden, premature death. (Usually violent).
2. The spirit of extreme division (Remove a person or group of persons at any cost – violently if necessary – and everything will be ok).
3. The spirit of obfuscation. (Intentionally obscuring and making unintelligible the truth. This goes beyond confusion. It makes the truth incomprehensible).

Whenever a group of people agree that certain evil actions are necessary to protect themselves AND when that group of people is willing to do whatever it takes to keep themselves safe, these kinds of high-level spirits become empowered to do great harm.

My intercessors think that this empowerment is coming out of Washington D.C. (and possibly Hollywood) as people scramble to escape the consequences of their actions.

Our first strategy to counter this evil spiritual activity is basic repentance. Pray like this:

Father God, Creator of Heaven and Earth, I repent for myself and my ancestors for ever cooperating with, agreeing with or empowering the above spirits, knowingly or unknowingly. Forgive us for ever being willing to do anything, no matter what it is or who it harms, to hide our actions and escape the consequences of our actions. Please forgive us. In Jesus’ name I ask this.

A second strategy appears to be this:
Offering the Lord childlike, joyous praise when asking Him to destroy the plots of these evil spirits.

Do not be afraid, little flock, for your Father has chosen gladly to give you the kingdom. Luke 12:32

Stay in joy, dear ones.

Hugs,

Susan
thepool@thepoolministries.org
205.556.4555

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Trust and Transition

 

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Written January 2018

On September 10th, 2017, I drove my elderly mother through pounding rain to a busy emergency department. She had been scheduled to see a cardiologist on the following day, a Monday, but Hurricane Irma had just slammed into the coast of Florida. My mother’s Alabama city was flooded with refugees, and meteorologists warned that heavy rain and tornadoes were a strong possibility even as far north as Montgomery.

The night before, my mother had slept in her recliner because she couldn’t breathe lying down. I had paced the floor that night, asking the Lord what to do. Her doctor’s appointment had been cancelled. Everything was closing down. When morning arrived, I told her that we needed to go to the hospital emergency department. She rolled her eyes, but agreed.

Eight hours later she was diagnosed with an irregular heartbeat and admitted to cardiac intensive care. My brother and sister-in-law took over for me and I left to get some rest.

My mother’s home was eerily empty that night. I walked in circles, living room to den, around through the kitchen and dining room, back through the living room. As I wore a path into my mother’s flooring, I asked the Lord, “Why? Why am I so anxious? Why don’t I trust you?”

The days that followed were spent in a shadowed hospital room, watching my mother rally a bit, then slide into silence. My nights were spent alone, walking my path through her desolate house, knowing what was coming. Only a few days into my vigil, the Lord spoke to me, saying “You don’t think that I am kind.”

It’s funny how you know what the Lord means even when its days later that he answers your question. The reason I was struggling with trusting him through this transition was because I didn’t believe (in my heart) that he was kind.

My mother came home on Hospice. Two weeks after our trip through the pouring rain, she passed away. Looking back, I see just how kind the Lord was to her and to me, smoothing her passage into heaven in ways that meant the most to her. She was able to live out her very long life in her own home; she died quickly – all things considered – in her right mind, surrounded by her family. She left all of her financial affairs in order; her funeral arranged and paid for in advance, so that my brother and I had very little to do.

As the days passed, I found myself thinking about the Lord’s words to me. And I began to understand how trust grows. Trust grows in response to the consistent acts of kindness performed by the other person.

The Lord didn’t want me to be upset with myself because I struggled to trust him during that time of transition. He knows that I cannot grow trust by simply deciding to grow it; any more than I can grow sunflowers without first planting sunflower seeds.

No significant person was consistently kind to me during my childhood. As a result, trust was never produced within me. By the time I received the Lord, I was a completely unchurched young adult. When I became involved in a church, I was rigorously taught that I had to trust God. That God would reward my trust with the blessings that I desperately needed. Sort of like a system of exchange. I pay God for his blessings with trust. No trust. No blessing for me!

If you think about it, that kind of doctrine makes God look bad. I try to be kind to everyone all the time. They don’t have to pay me for it.

Now there is a time to choose to trust the Lord. To make the decision to believe his word; to walk his path. And that choice is crucial to our maturity. But there is a deeper trust. One that can only grow through relationship. That kind of trust makes us settle down in green pastures.

Therefore let us be diligent to enter that rest … Hebrews 4:11

So here is what I am learning. Kindness – God’s consistent acts of kindness towards me – is the seed that produces trust. I cannot grow it by myself. But I can participate in the process by asking him to make me aware of his kindnesses. In this dark world, it is so easy to focus on all the bad stuff. We need his help to see the good stuff he is doing for us.

(He) raised us up with Him, and seated us with Him in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus, so that in the ages to come He might show the surpassing riches of His grace in kindness toward us in Christ Jesus. Ephesians 2:6-7

Blessings and hugs,
Susan

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What’s Behind These Gender Issues? (Part 3)

Written August 2017

Looking for Causes and Cures

Part Three of this series exposes the hidden beliefs empowering the spirit of misogyny and misandry.

What is at the Root of Today’s Gender Issues?

When I was a college student a certain number of science courses were mandatory in order for me to graduate even though I was a liberal arts major. So I was required to study evolution and write an essay about that supposed process in order to pass. I recall ending my essay with this comment: “It all began in a Garden.” That Garden is where we will start the third and final part of Gender Issues.

First, I want to take a quick look at a concept explored much more fully by John Sandford in his outstanding book The Renewal of the Mind. We all are aware that we inherit a natural gene set from our parents. We also inherit a spiritual gene set. This spiritual inheritance includes a fallen way of thinking that resulted when Adam and Eve sinned in the Garden. John Sandford states it this way, “Root systems inherited from Adam and Eve are common to all; no one has escaped having them.”

We can see this principle revealed in Romans 5 which explains that through Adam (one man) ALL were made sinners. Since we are all descendants of Adam and Eve, we all have inherited from our ancient parents certain automatic ways of thinking about gender. Don’t despair! There are ways to overcome these ingrained mental thought patterns because “through the obedience of the One (Jesus) the many will be made righteous.” I will discuss those tools later in the article.

Blame Shifting
Let’s visit what happened in the Garden after Adam and Eve fell for the devil’s scam. When the Lord asked Adam if he had eaten from the forbidden tree, Adam replied, “The woman whom You gave to be with me, she gave me from the tree, and I ate” (Genesis 3:12). Adam blamed Eve for his very own, could-have-chosen differently, choice to eat. He blamed her AND he blamed God.

This very first blame shifting resulted in a mental groove that all of humanity runs along. We automatically shy away from taking responsibility for our own actions, instead we find someone or something to blame for our bad choices. We don’t even have to think about it! It’s automatic.

How does this affect our relationship with the opposite gender? We blame the man or we blame the woman. If he or she would just change then we would be happy and successful! Do you see how this way of thinking causes us to believe that the man or the woman possesses a dangerous power to affect our lives for good or ill?

Let’s stop and pray: Father God, Creator of Heaven and Earth, I repent for myself and for my ancestors for accepting the lie that You have given the opposite gender the power to ruin my life. My life is hidden in You. Forgive me and forgive my people for blaming You and for blaming him or her for the choices I have made. Bring this inherited mental groove of ducking responsibility and blame shifting to death within me. Build into me the mind of Christ. In His name I pray.

Control and Debt Paying
Historically, Adam’s response to believing that the woman ruined everything is to control and subjugate her. This behavior is rooted in fear of what the woman will do if she is left to her own devices. Let’s recall that Satan himself launched an intentional psychological attack against Eve. She didn’t come up with disobeying God on her own. Not only did she have help from a malevolent source, she had never encountered evil intentions before. What woman or man could have stood against the evil one under those same circumstances? I believe the world-wide subjugation of women (and women’s agreement with being subjugated) stems from our inherited ingrained belief that women are not to be trusted because they are dangerous and, thus, must be controlled. God stated it this way in Genesis 3:16: “He (the man) will rule over you.”

Women are inclined to agree that they need, or deserve, to be subjugated since they, too, have inherited the belief that they have ruined everything. Women tend toward believing within themselves that they owe men a debt that can never be paid. I was an amazing sprinter when I was a girl, so much so that a coach at my high school arranged to have me race his best runner. The entire school immediately split into two factions: the girls against the boys with me at the center! What I couldn’t tell my friends was that I was deeply conflicted about the possibility of winning the race. I automatically believed that beating the boy was wrong. I hoped that he was faster than me, but he wasn’t and, as I raced ahead realizing that I could win if I tried, I slowed down and let him win.

Let’s stop and pray: Father God, Creator of Heaven and Earth, I repent for myself and for my ancestors for accepting the lie that women must be subjugated and controlled. That it is not safe to allow them to develop and excel. Forgive us for allowing fear to rule our perceptions of women.

For women to pray: Forgive me and my people for accepting blame wrongly and trying to pay debts that Your beautiful Son paid for us on the cross. I chose to allow Jesus to pay all debts owed by me and my people. He will restore anything we have broken.

For all to pray: Bring this inherited mental groove of accepting that women have committed a sin that cannot be forgiven and owe a debt that cannot be paid to death within me. Build into me the mind of Christ. In His name I pray.

Wrong Priorities and Deafness

“Then to Adam He said, “Because you have listened to the voice of your wife, and have eaten from the tree about which I commanded you, saying, ‘You shall not eat from it …’” Genesis 3:17

I realize that many people use the scripture above to justify marginalizing the input of women, but let me suggest that God was NOT talking about gender issues. He was pointing out that because Adam valued his horizontal relationship with Eve above his vertical relationship with God, lots of bad things had been loosed into the world. It was a priority issue; not a gender issue. One mental groove we have inherited from Adam’s choice is that we value our human relationships inappropriately. We continue to ignore God’s commands when it comes to our relationships, sleeping with each other before marriage and placing the other person’s happiness above pleasing the Lord.

Another expression of this twisting of perception between the genders is the deification of men by women. Women are born turned toward men, longing to be satisfied and fulfilled by men in ways only God can supply. Men, of course, fail at being God which results in generations of deeply disappointed women. God warned us when He said to Eve:
“your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” Genesis 3:16

Even though God was NOT talking about gender when He said “because you have listened to the voice of your wife,” we inherit the belief that it is not safe to listen to women. How many women can attest to the fact that men are born with an internal off switch that activates whenever their women offer advice, input or simply want to engage in meaningful conversation? Because Adam blamed Eve, he turned away from receiving advice from her even though she was designed by God to help him. There is no disgrace in being a helper. The Holy Spirit is sent to us as a helper.

But the Helper, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in My name, He will teach you all things, and bring to your remembrance all that I said to you. John 14:26

But because of choices made by our ancient parents, we automatically scorn and fear the help of women and the role of helper is looked down upon with great contempt.

Let’s stop and pray: Dearest Father God, we come before the throne of grace in our time of need, admitting that we have inherited mental grooves along which our minds automatically run. Because of this, we have placed our human relationships above our relationship with You. We have ignored Your commands in order to pursue human companionship at the expense of Your design. Forgive us, Lord. Give us mercy.

To be prayed by men: Lord, we have deafened our ears to the advice and input of women who You specially designed to come alongside to help us. Being a helper does not make women less than us. It is an honorable task not an identity. Holy Spirit is not ashamed to be called our Helper. Forgive us for making women feel ashamed of that role. Forgive us, Lord. Teach us to honor the Godly role of women in our lives. Teach us to receive from them appropriately, while not setting them above You.

Forgive me and my people for deifying men in positions of authority, looking to a leader to provide and protect; to supply legitimacy and identity, instead of seeking those things from You. Forgive us for accepting the lie that we (men) must fill Your shoes, striving for that, then condemning ourselves and other men when we failed. Forgive me and my people for judging men who have failed to live up to our expectations. Teach us to understand and honor our design as men according to Your truth.

To be prayed by women: Father God, forgive us for deifying our men, demanding that they be You, always wise and strong, able to fulfill all our needs, then becoming bitterly disappointed when they have failed. Forgive us, Lord. Teach us to honor our men appropriately, not setting them in Your place.

Forgive us for being ashamed of our role as helper, believing that being called alongside to help makes women less than men. Forgive me and my people for holding ourselves in contempt or using our gender as an excuse to set ungodly limits for ourselves. Forgive us for rejecting or devaluing our insights and advice. Teach us to understand and honor our gender according to the truth embodied in Your design.

To be prayed by all: Bring these inherited mental grooves to death within us and build into us the mind of Christ. In His name we pray.

The Tools
Since none of us escape inheriting these fallen ways of thinking about gender, what can we do to change the way we think? First, be aware that you are predisposed to think in wrong ways. Pray the prayers in this article, or your own version, whenever you catch yourself falling back into the habitual ways of thinking. We were created to love and appreciate each other; not fight and hate. Our warfare isn’t against the man or the woman. What John Sandford calls “flash prayers” should be prayed throughout your day, short prayers asking the Lord to bring your carnal thinking to death, asking Him to build new ways of thinking into you; to activate the mind of Christ within you.

Inner healing that addresses the deep beliefs within your heart must be addressed so that you can sustain healthy and righteous ways of thinking. If you fail to address what you REALLY believe deep down inside of you, then you will fail to sustain righteous thinking. The enemy has too many buttons to push.

Ask the Lord this: What do I really believe about men/women? Then be quiet and listen. Repent as necessary. Break vows to accept that men are bad or women are bad.

When you fail to react from the mind of Christ, simply repent and go on with building a habit of flash prayers and inner healing.

Many blessings to you, my friends. Please share this article with your friends and loved ones. I am looking forward to having our new website up within the next few months.

I’ll be teaching on the heart at First Wesleyan Church in Tuscaloosa. Classes start September 7th at 6:30 pm. Everyone is welcome!

Smiles!
Susan

Susan Bowman

What’s Behind These Gender Issues? (Part 2)

Written August 2017

Looking for Causes and Cures

When Men Are Hated

In Part One of this series, I raised the possibility that the confusion surrounding gender might be growing out of wide-spread exasperation with the ongoing bitter hostility between men and women. If society regards gender as fluid; if it doesn’t matter, then perhaps some of the pain surrounding divorce and parental abandonment will be contained.

How does this ancient warfare between the genders express itself? The fruit is pretty obvious: the marginalization of women and the deification of men. We looked at the marginalization of women in Part One. We will look at the deification of men in Part Two. In Part Three, I will tackle the root issues which are producing all this rotten fruit.

Deification is when a person is treated like a god. Do we deify our men? Do we require them to be godlike? I think we do. I think we inherit a fallen mindset that causes us to automatically place men on a throne reserved for God. Men, obviously, are not equipped to be God. But because the world unthinkingly expects a godlike performance from them, men suffer from a deep sense of inadequacy which, if you think about it, makes sense. In their inner most being, men know they are going to fail at being God.

How men handle this deification varies. Some are hard, cold and angry. Others withdraw. Some cycle in and out of depression as they struggle to be good men only to fail again and again. Others give up or act out. The wrong responses to this sin just grows the wide-spread belief that all men are dangerous, morally weak and not to be trusted.

Unlike misogyny, which is the institutionalized acceptance that it is socially and culturally right to marginalize women, misandry – the hatred of men – is a grassroots and underground movement. Misandry spreads throughout the female population as women agree to fear, hate and despise those seen as the oppressor. Encoded with a fallen image of what a man should be, children grow to fear, hate and despise their fathers for real and perceived failures.

Because all of us are born with a corrupted mind, we all view gender through a filter that the enemy is able to manipulate. When we do nothing to actively bring our fallen mindset to the Lord for freedom, we are easily manipulated by a spirit of misandry and misogyny. We become like the people described in Ephesians 4:17-19: So this I say, and affirm together with the Lord, that you walk no longer just as the Gentiles also walk, in the futility of their mind, being darkened in their understanding, excluded from the life of God because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the hardness of their heart; and they, having become callous, have given themselves over to sensuality for the practice of every kind of impurity with greediness.

The Feminist Movement
When a people group sees itself as the powerless victim of an unjust power structure, it will band together to pool resources and gain power. I don’t think such banding together is evil. I think it is a response to stripping human beings of their legitimacy, making them feel powerless because of some unchangeable aspect of their God-given design. The group usually begins asking for basic human rights peacefully through demonstration and education, but historically such movements devolve into bitterness and militancy. The enemy is involved, of course, but inherited mental strongholds cannot be overcome by human reason or, for that matter, by militancy. Our corrupted minds must be renewed, our fallen thinking brought to death by the Spirit of the Lord. Let’s begin working on that with the following renunciations.

How to Begin the Renunciation Process
Therefore, let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need. Hebrews 4:16

Hebrews 4:16 invites us to bring our needs into the presence of God. Since the invitation is clear, it is into this heavenly place that I bring generationally empowered sin, bondages and the “things I don’t know” (mysteries) in order to get help. So let us approach the throne of grace in this way.

Pray this: Eternal Father, Creator of all, I accept your invitation to approach the throne of grace in order to receive deliverance for myself and for my ancestral generational line (tribe) from a spirit of misandry. I approach confidently because Your Son has given His life for me. I approach as a representative of my tribe, seeking the freedom and restoration purchased for us by Jesus Christ through His death and resurrection.

It was for freedom that Christ set us free; therefore, keep standing firm and do not be subject again to a yoke of slavery. Galatians 5:1

When Men Are Hated (Deliverance from a Spirit of Misandry)
Everyone before the throne of grace? Ok. Begin like this: Heavenly Father, on behalf of myself and my generational line, I stand before Your throne as a representative of my tribe to renounce, reject and repent …

 For deifying men; for placing them on the throne of our hearts; family; church; community; government or any other throne reserved for God alone.
 For worshipping men
 For expecting men to be God
 For stripping them of their God given-design and replacing it with a fallen carnal design
 For creating a carnal design and worldly place within which all men must fit regardless of their individual gifts and purpose
 For placing man on a pedestal, expecting him to always be emotionally and physically strong, rich, successful, emotionless yet sensitive, affectionate, but not needing affection himself; supportive but able to stand alone. Then despising him when he fails
 For denying men the right to the full range of human emotions
 For valuing men based upon their physical appearance, strength, intelligence and success as measured by worldly standards
 For holding in contempt those men who do not meet worldly standards of manhood
 For the portrayal of men, especially fathers, by the entertainment industry as clueless, weak fools
 For agreeing that men are disposable and expendable in war or in dangerous occupations
 For reducing men to provider only or using them for personal gain of any kind including enhanced status, financial safety and emotional security
 For promoting a double-standard that excuses immoral behavior on the basis of the belief that men just act that way and cannot control themselves.
 For promoting the belief that men are inherently immoral, weak and inferior
 For accepting that all men are stupid and failures
 For believing the lie that all men are selfish, dangerous, violent, untrustworthy and controlling. For believing the lie that all men are rapists and murderers
 For believing the lie that men must be controlled and manipulated. For controlling, nagging and manipulating men. For using sex to manipulate, punish and control men
 For nurturing and cherishing contempt, resentment, superiority, hatred, anger, bitterness and disappointment against the man
 For acts of passive-aggressive vengeance
 For abusing men (fathers, husbands, boyfriends, sons) emotionally, verbally and physically. For withdrawing and withholding affection and communication in order to punish or control
 For making the man the villain and the enemy. For demonizing men and promoting an anti-male attitude
 For blaming the man (Adam) for all the world’s troubles.
 For empowering the Spirit of Misandry in any way by hating men.

In the name of Jesus of Nazareth, I bring to the cross every debt owed to me and to my generational line by anyone who has hurt us by agreeing with and acting in partnership with a spirit of misandry. I ask that the Lord Jesus repay what is owed to us. I also bring all debts we owe to those we have hurt by agreeing with and acting in partnership with a spirit of misandry. I ask, Lord, that You would pay the debts we owe, restoring all that has been damaged or lost because of our sin.

Father God, Creator of Heaven and Earth, as you cleanse my generational line and as you cleanse me, I ask you to bless men with the confidence to walk bravely in their calling, looking only to You for their legitimacy, validation and identity.

To be prayed by men: I bring every curse, judgment, criticism, condemnation and accusation I have ever spoken over myself and over other men to Jesus to be replaced with His blessings. I repent for any rage, resentment and disappointment directed at my Creator for making me a man. I accept my male gender and bless my design.

To be prayed by all: Lord, I ask that every evil spirit involved in destroying the men in my tribe be held accountable by You for what they have done. I ask that these evil beings be judged by You and destroyed for their crimes against humanity. In the name of Jesus, I pray. Amen.

Be looking for Part Three coming your way soon!

Smiles and blessings,

Susan

What’s Behind These Gender Issues (Part One)

Written August 2017

Looking for Causes and Cures

A young friend of mine broached the possibility that the confusion surrounding gender might be growing out of wide-spread exasperation. She wondered if the younger generation is just fed up with the hatred between the genders that has found such devastating expression in a divorce epidemic. Many young people, and not so young, are survivors of divorce or the children of uncommitted parents. Many grew up in a bitter stew of blame and recrimination directed at the father they loved (or wanted to love) and the mother they loved (or wanted to love). Who wants to be a man if the man is bad or a woman if the woman is the cause of our family’s pain? If the man/woman would change or leave then we would be ok! That is the cry of many broken hearts.

Fathers, do not exasperate your children, so that they will not lose heart. Colossians 3:21

This is a sin problem, of course, not a gender issue. Still, with this war between the genders, along with the narrowness and inequality of culturally assigned gender roles, it becomes easy to misdirect our pain and anger so that we blame gender instead of sin. Perhaps this is the thinking behind today’s embrace of “gender fluidity.” If our culture would make biological gender unimportant and insignificant, if we would place gender identity squarely in the hands of the individual, perhaps we can escape or, at least, minimize pain and confusion. Sadly, the outcome of tackling such a problem with human wisdom is more pain and confusion.

Recently, I reached out to another healing ministry – Aslan’s Place – for their advice about a deliverance problem and, in the wondrous way of the Lord, I was not only given the help I asked for, I was also given help that I didn’t realize I needed. Brian Cox, discerning the activity of a misogynistic spirit, directed me to a prayer posted on his website: http://www.aslansplace.com.

This renunciation helps us repent of the abuses against women, both personal and generational, that have resulted in empowering a spirit of misogyny. As I prayed the renunciations, repenting for my ancestors and myself for any abuses committed against women, I began to realize that the prayer was dealing with the fruit (result) of a deeply rooted iniquity. I define iniquity as an intentional twisting and distorting of God’s sovereign design. When we commit iniquity, a root is created from which will grow a fruit-bearing tree. In this case, a certain ancient iniquity has grown hatred between the genders. I believe the original iniquity was woman placing man (the male) on the throne that is reserved for God and man allowing himself to be placed there. (I will look at this more closely in Part Three of this teaching).

Because a man is in no way equipped to be God to a woman, deep and bitter disappointment has resulted from this perversion of God’s design. Humanity’s wholesale rejection of a stable, honorable, God-created gender system, designed to mirror Christ and His bride, is just the most recent fruit borne out of this ancient iniquity.

So let’s get started on cleaning up the sin and iniquity that has come down to us via the belief systems held by our generational line, starting with one kind of fruit being borne by the iniquity: the abuses against women.

In Part Two we will address the hatred of men and in Part Three we will further explore the root iniquity, praying our way through as complete of a renunciation as I can write. John Sandford of Elijah House taught me that no tree is destroyed by picking its fruit. So stay with me please through this three-part discussion until we have dug down to the root iniquity and destroyed the tree at its deepest level.

When Women Are Hated (Deliverance from a Spirit of Misogyny)

Therefore, let us draw near with confidence to the throne of grace, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need. Hebrews 4:16

Hebrews 4:16 invites us to bring our needs into the presence of God. Since the invitation is clear, it is into this heavenly place that I bring generationally empowered sin, bondages and the “things I don’t know” (mysteries) in order to get help. So let us approach the throne of grace in this way:

Pray this: Eternal Father, Creator of all, I accept your invitation to approach the throne of grace in order to receive deliverance for my ancestral generational line (tribe) and for myself from a spirit of misogyny. I approach confidently because Your Son has given His life for me. I approach as a representative of my tribe, seeking the freedom and restoration purchased for us by Jesus Christ through His death and resurrection.

It was for freedom that Christ set us free; therefore, keep standing firm and do not be subject again to a yoke of slavery. Galatians 5:1

Everyone before the throne of grace? Ok. Begin like this: Heavenly Father, on behalf of myself and my generational line, I stand before Your throne as a representative of my tribe to renounce, reject and repent …

Now please click on the link, pray through the renunciations then return here where I will explain some of the history behind a few of the renunciations and add a few renunciations of my own.

Aslan’s Place Renunciations

Additional Renunciations
 I repent for blaming the woman (Eve) for all of the world’s troubles. I repent for any in my generational line who believed or propagated the lie that Lilith was the first woman, that she was created from the same earth as Adam, that she was a flawed creation and the mother of demons.
 I repent for forcing women into arranged marriages and/or prostitution for the purpose of political gain. I repent for treating women as objects to be used without regard for their personhood.
 I renounce and repent on my behalf and on behalf of all of my generational line for propagating and believing the lie that women do not have souls.
 I repent for believing and propagating the lie that women are inferior to men and exist for the sole purpose of serving men.
 I repent for robbing women of their personhood and silencing their voices.
 I repent for all who have denied or limited access into various professions, declaring that the intellectual labor of a woman is not equal to that of a man and using that as an excuse to withhold equal pay and benefits.
 I repent for the belief that women are supposed to suffer in childbirth.
 For myself and my family line, I repent for all who have participated in obstetrical practices that considered the comfort of the physician more important than the well-being of the mother and/or child. I repent of all medical procedures performed for the convenience of the physician at the expense of the mother and/or child.
 I repent for all those who blamed their wives for the failure to produce male children.
 I repent for all who have twisted the intent of scripture in order to subjugate women within the institutions of marriage, family, church, government, business and community by withholding leadership positions, banishing women to the background, denying their callings, diminishing their gifts and denying the Word of God that declares all people equal in His eyes (Galatians 3:28).

In the name of Jesus of Nazareth, I bring to the cross every debt owed to my generational line and to me by anyone who has hurt us by agreeing with and acting in partnership with a misogynist spirit. I ask that the Lord Jesus repay what is owned to us. restoring what has been damaged or lost. I also bring all debts we owe to those we have hurt by agreeing with and acting in partnership with a misogynist spirit. I ask, Lord, that You would pay the debts we owe, restoring all that has been damaged or lost because of our sin.

Father God, Creator of Heaven and Earth, as you cleanse my generational line and as you cleanse me, I ask you to bless women with the confidence to walk bravely in their calling, looking only to You for validation, legitimacy and identity.

To be prayed by women: I bring every curse, judgment, criticism, accusation and condemnation I have ever spoken over myself and over other women to Jesus to be replaced with His blessings. I repent for any rage, resentment and disappointment directed at my Creator for making me a woman. I accept my female gender and bless my design.

To be prayed by all: Lord, I ask that every evil spirit involved in destroying the women in my tribe be held accountable by You for what they have done. I ask that these evil beings be judged by You and destroyed for their crimes against humanity. In the name of Jesus, I pray. Amen.

Explanations:
Droit du Seigneur: the supposed right claimable by a feudal lord to have sexual relations with the bride of a vassal on her first night of marriage.

Hysterectomies: I have been unable to locate any record of hysterectomies being performed as a cure for mental and emotional distress, (not to say that it hasn’t been done, just that I cannot locate records of it myself). BUT, historically, the medical community has blamed women’s emotional distresses (hysteria) on a “wandering womb.” In other words, the cause of emotional, mental and spiritual pain is because a person is biologically female.

Scopolamine: When combined with morphine, this drug produces a state called “twilight sleep.” The laboring woman feels pain, but doesn’t remember it after the drug wears off. Research reports that Scopolamine creates a psychotic state during which the laboring mother may need to be forcibly restrained while giving birth and may result in a failure to bond with the child.

Be looking for Part Two coming your way soon!

Smiles and blessings,
Susan